As pathetic as it sounds for a woman of my age, I've never had a 'healthy' relationship and I'm really not sure if I'm looking for a problem where there really isn't one. Found inside“Okay, well, first, you should know I will always be eternally grateful for all you did for me, all you sacrificed, ... Julian walked away from me in part because he doesn't want to make me choose between him and my family. Sometimes I would tell an anecdote or two about them if it's relevant, but I don't talk about "our past" in those terms. Just make sure you’re clear about why. Found inside – Page 152People change, I want to write back in all caps. ... But all he knows is my catalog of recipes, a handful of opinions on New York restaurants or cookbooks, ... Adam may have known my past, but he certainly doesn't know my present. Found insideStefin brushed past Taro. “Forgive him. He doesn't know how to talk to a woman.” Neither did Stefin. Zoe arched one eyebrow. Her cynicism didn't ... He looked intrigued. “I'll listen. I'll even agree with everything, just as you want. Once that visual is in his head, it’s always going to be there. Hearing about guys from your past makes him feel paranoid. My DH is exactly like this. Just make sure you're clear about why. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. I agree with you that heâs wrong to dismiss the possibility that she was abused, if for no other reason than 1) she was experiencing repercussions of trauma, 2) So many people are abused. Obviously at our ages we both have past relationships...and children...mine he would love to meet, and although they are older and it has been a couple of months I still feel that it's a little too soon. Well, he didn’t answer my question, explaining that he’d prefer not to talk about either of our love/dating histories. Found insideHe'll support you.” “He knows about my past, but he's also very traditional. He doesn't blame me, but he's never been interested in the sordid details.” Sharon shivered as she spoke. Gabrielle considered herself a decent judge of ... The occasional threads on here about "red flags when dating" include always talking about exes (there goes my chance of a second date with anyone ever, as I can't stop going on about mine!). This is how support worksâyouâre in the blast zone, and you tell him. If it's closer to "because the thought of you with another man ever makes me physically sick", then watch out for further red flags. You want to talk about past relationships because you don’t like that there’s a missing piece. Maybe heâs been a victim of trauma and pushing all of it away is the only way he knows how to cope. And, if thatâs true, then you need to know for sure so you can either opt to stay with someone who refuses to understand the most painful part of your life, or you can decide to go, on your own terms, and find someone who can. Either way, that is their problem and not their partner's. The only way partners can deal with such a situation is to set boundaries around the topic and make it off-limits. He often gives me “sandwiches of love,” gestures and small gifts (inexpensive, but very personal that show he listens to me). They want to be 'the one' in your life, not one in a line of men.Try not to worry too much about it, and enjoy your new relationship! When youâre in a relationship you always want to keep your partner thinking that youâre nothing but pure amazing for as long as possible. You also want to avoid finding out about his past from other people. You are doing a lot of work to get through this, but one panic attack a month is still a lot for you to bear. Remember that curiosity killed the cat. But part of me isn’t OK with this agreement. So I made an agreement with him not to speak about our exes, as a matter of trust and respecting his privacy. I'm in my mid forties and met someone my age a few weeks ago who so far has been lovely. Found insideI don't know. I just don't want you to get hurt.” “She's not going to hurt me. She worships me. She treats me so good ... She hugs me and kisses me and she's really thoughtful. ... She knows a lot about my past and she doesn't judge me. No one likes a victim. Your partner sounds like a great guy who is uncomfortable with issues around trauma. Itâs like youâre carrying around a giant backpack full of heavy books and you have them all the time. Found insideShe does as he asks, in the chair directly opposite the one he occupies. ... I didn't want to talk to you. I didn't know what I could say. ... Jack became a part of my past I didn't need to think about anymore – and you along with him. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. 18 He Wants You: He'll Make Random Excuses To Talk To You. Living Together, Separately: On Not Sharing A Room With Your Partner. It sounds like this is a kind, caring man who you love very much who also has a huge blind spot regarding trauma and you want me to give you a way to justify not telling him about your traumatic past. Q. I’m in a wonderful relationship with a sweet guy who makes me laugh. He is everything I ever wanted in a man. He doesn’t want to think about it and he doesn’t want that visual in his head. Found insideHe's quiet for a few blocks, sipping his coffee and sneaking peeks at me. ... I know it isn't the level of education you're used to." "It wasn't the school..." He holds my ... His hard tone says he doesn't want to discuss her anymore. CHAN1112, You asked about people who’ve had the ex talk: My husband and I did talk about past significant exes with one another. You’d rather get that information from him. He said he’d prefer not to talk about it unless you really need to. I don't want to hear about the details of my partner's past relationships, and we've been together almost 5 years! He doesn't need to know any details, why should he particularly want to? Create an account to join the conversation, Have your say, get notified on what matters to you and see fewer ads, This is page 1 of 1 (This thread has 22 messages.). Tell him and lighten your load. I remember him saying something along the lines of 'the people you were with before are part of the reason you are the person you are, but I just don't want to hear the details about them'. We all live in fear of our partners realizing that we arenât as great as we first appear, but the truth is this realization canât be avoided. Well I've been married 10 years and never talked to my DH about my exes, nor has he spoken to me about his. You want validation that this is the best relationship he has ever had. He tells me that he thinks I'm perfect, I'm not...far from it...and so I'm wary that he's trying to fit me into his idea of 'the perfect woman'....and that's only going to lead to disappointment. Found inside – Page 24Not thirty minutes after he left, the man who I was going to report to jumped into my office to try to; I mean, sure in his mind, soothe my mind because he knows we've had differences of opinion. He said he didn't want to be disruptive ... You donât need to be the cool girl who is light and airy and fun and fine and never needs or wants anything. If you pass a restaurant and say, “Ugh, I had a terrible date there six years ago,” it shouldn’t be the end of the world. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for âproblemsâ to deardana@rolereboot.org. Found inside“'We do not remember days, we remember moments,'” Macey said. ... “I can't figure out if someone wants me to remember or not. ... “But we won't know for sure unless he succeeds in killing me or I remember what happened. Dear Dana, I have been with an amazing guy and two stepkids for four years. My boyfriend won't let me tell him about my past. At one point early in the relationship, he mentioned that she had some kind of issue, and that she would sometimes go into the bathroom and sob hysterically and rip pieces of paper into lots of tiny pieces, then come out acting like everything was fine. He probably doesn’t want to talk about his exes because it isn’t relevant to the relationship. Especially as he was there watching as your friend for two years. Found insideThese men always had my back. I didn't want to hold anything in from any of them. Tug deserved to know. “I have a granddaughter?” Tug said through a deep breath, like he couldn't believe it. Like this was unimaginable to him. I think a lot of men are like this. You want to talk about past relationships because you don't like that there's a missing piece. You may find her on Twitter at @dananorris. She has been featured in McSweeneyâs, Role Reboot, The Rumpus, and Tampa Review and she teaches at StoryStudio Chicago. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for "problems" to deardana@rolereboot.org. I love him dearly, and he is so good to me. Don't be a red flag woman!Agree with TheFarSide, if you are worried then ask why he is uncomfortable with the subject. You want to talk about exes so he understands how he fits into your life, and why you're so . I’m trying to be cool about this, but it’s eating away at me. I have bad dreams sometimes and he wakes me up from them but . It’s my problem, not his. When I moved in with a boyfriend I was so nervous about impressing him that I stopped pooping for a few weeks and ended up in the ER with intense abdominal pain. Found inside – Page 150“Things with Austin didn't go to well after that. I broke it off, ... And because I want him so damn much and he doesn't want me. Because I know he thinks I'm a whore because of mistakes that I've made in my past and that just kills me. Found inside“He won't let me forget my past. He doesn't want me here. He's a fucking sadist who gets off on fighting with me. That's all part of my reality if I move back here.” “If?” she challenged. “Suddenly it's if ? I thought you wanted to be ... Found inside – Page 95Never realized that my wife felt neglected. She didn't want children and had too much time on her hands. ... He keeps to himself and nobody knows about his background or his past life, unless Harmon knows and doesn't tell. As you meet more friends and family, someone’s bound to mention an ex or lack thereof. Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. And heâs right there with you, next to you, but he canât see the backpack so he doesnât know itâs there and you try to pretend itâs not there and meanwhile itâs slowly crushing your spinal cord. Honey, your guy understands on some level that you’ve been with other guys before him. I asked if he ever talked to her about what was wrong, and he told me that he didn’t because those kinds of things make him uncomfortable. We don't get the old photos and mementos out and swap ex stories or anything, but the initial prickliness about the past wore off. Found insideI really didn't want to have it on the day my life was about to be turned upside down. To be fair to Gabe, he didn't know about my past, mostly because I hadn't told him. I hadn't even shared much about my future. Found inside“It happened to Livvie once and Charlie doesn't want to see it happen to me. You don't know how bad Livvie's marriage was. Her husband was a tyrant. Luckily her money was tied up in such a way he couldn't spend it all, but he sure tried ... Found inside – Page 159He's the only thing I've been investigating. I'm sure my teaching hasn't pissed off anyone. I believe the link between all these things has something to do with my father's past that they don't want spread around.” “Yes well . I love . Why does it make him uncomfortable? You just want to know the basics, and that he trusts you with his past. Found inside“Have you told him about your past life?” “A little. He knows that I have weird dreams and that I think they're connected to my past. He doesn't pry. He got married a few years ago and has three kids. We only see each other at work now, ... The cool girl isnât real, sheâs a figment, and trying to be her is doing you, the real girl, harm. Instead, he simply said that unless I really wanted to discuss it, he’d prefer never to talk about this at all. He is very supportive and respectful. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support. At another point, he mentioned that his ex’s sister is institutionalized. When you've had an argument with a friend, he'll naturally take your side. Found insideI don't...I don't want to change my life now. I'm used to things the way they are.” “What do you know about me? ... She didn't trust him. ... He was as upset by it as I was, but neither of us could make it up to you by then. I have to wonder whether he’s avoiding this conversation because he doesn’t have much to say. We’ve spoken seriously about marriage, likely within the next year. I have been with an amazing guy and two stepkids for four years. You want to talk about past relationships because you don't like that there's a missing piece. I feel so rejected that he doesn’t want to know about this major thing and how it has affected me. And my DH is a lovely man, not jealous or controlling at allHe said it made him feel pissed off that he hadn't met me sooner and that he hadn't been there (iyswim).It all came out in the fullness of time. Childminder terminated contract on first day because of behaviour. Found insideClient: No one I know had one from my past. TZ: Well, he says he's your father. Client: The last two years before he died is when I saw him last and he didn't have one and he didn't have one when I was ... He doesn't want to be missed. Found inside“You're to come again tomorrow and hear a full confession of my past,” I said. “And then, if you still want me, I'll agree to become your wife.” “I don't want to know anything. I don't want to hear anything,” he said. I wasn’t surprised, given that he’d never once brought up the topic before and because he’s a private person, in general. You want to talk about past relationships because you don't like that there's a missing piece. Found insideHe won't call. - What do you mean? - You're on his territory, in the hours of the day that you said so yourself<> ... He is not rejecting you Elena, I'm not saying that he doesn't want to be with you right now. Besides, it’s my issue, not his! You’ve seen one episode, you’ve seen them all? It may be because of something in his past that you donât knowâmaybe someone once told him about a traumatic event and he responded in a way that he felt made it worse. However, I’d hoped he’d say something like, “Yeah, I dated around/had a few girlfriends before I met you, but I’ve never loved anyone as much as I love you.” Maybe that sounds sappy, but I thought it would have been nice and reassuring, even if he didn’t want to divulge details or dig up past feelings. I mean, it can be if you break up first, but it doesnât sound like you want to do that. How could we be open and honest without hurting one another? At another point, he mentioned that his ex’s other sister accused her father of physical abuse, but “she must be lying” because her father is such a nice guy that he can’t imagine him abusing anyone. Found inside – Page 164My voice comes out sharper than intended, but I don't want to be dependent, or beholden, or anything really. “Then ride with me. ... I never volunteer information about my past, so I'm surprised when he doesn't press for more. Just in case your were wondering; I’m using cat as a metaphor for your relationship. Also, he had only proper girlfriend before he met me, so maybe he felt insecure about his lack of experience. I'm not sure about the significance, I know perhaps men don't want/need as much detail about those types of thing than women (horrible generalisation, shoot me!) Found insideI had talked to him about my past with Mick and briefly touched on the situation at home. I don't think he fully grasped the concept of what I was getting at. I didn't want to scare him away, so I kept that talk of them brief. It wasn’t to gauge our commitment or to use as a measure for how our relationship is going. He knows that I have an abusive past (abusive ex-boyfriend, was also raped) but he won't let me talk about it. Not having the conversation isnât protecting himâitâs keeping him ignorant while making your life more difficult. We both decided we wanted to without much fanfare, it was a part of telling our stories to one another. But he won't care and that won't matter to him. Just be in your relationship. You wonât know his reasons until you have the conversation, and you really need to have the conversation. Found insideHe loved God, and you could tell. ... We would talk about the Bible together, and even though we did, he would tell me how he didn't really like having sex ... I didn't want to scare him, so I lied and acted as if my past didn't exist. At another point, he mentioned that his ex’s father was an alcoholic. I don’t want to confront him about it because then I would just be pressuring him into acting like he wants to hear it. I’d appreciate some perspective from those who’ve successfully had “the ex talk.” Is this a conversation worth bringing up with him again? Relationships arenât just the good parts of youâtheyâre every part of you. I don't feel a need to particularily talk about them in any great length as they are the past, however they are part of what has formed me into the person that I am now(just as with any of lifes experiences) The reason that he gives is that he would find it hard to listen to, is this normal, do other people get this? One left me pretty heartbroken for about a year before I met my current boyfriend, and then he changed everything. That sounds quite controlling to me. The niggle is that he doesn't want to hear about any past relationships that I've had, not any detail. He probably doesn’t want to talk about his exes because it isn’t relevant to the relationship. Found insideShe doesn't really ask about me or my past. She's fine with how things are.” “That'll change. It changes. She's going to want to know more about you, your past, and what you're doing now. Let's face it, she's already wondering stuff. If otherwise things in your relationship are going well, I can’t imagine why you’d want to open this can of worms. If otherwise things in your relationship are going well, I can’t imagine why you’d want to open this can of worms. Found insideI hadn't thought about how this could affect Luke. Even if he doesn't disapprove, the church might. I haven't really told Luke anything about my past. I told him about growing up in Arizona, but I just didn't feel ready to talk about ... Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Youâre a real person and real people have real shit that the people who love them need to deal with. I hadnât actively decided to stop pooping, but I was so uncomfortable in my new surroundings and so eager to impress him and get him to marry me that my body just turned off the pooping function until it had to be medically switched back on. Found inside“Why didn't you tell me?” “I didn't want you to have to—” His voice broke. He swallowed. When his voice came back, it was hard and cold. “I don't owe you anything. We fucked, that's all. I'd think you'd have figured out by now that not ... Your relationship with him isnât the same as his relationship with her. Found inside – Page 88“Do you care about my brother, Misha? Because I know he cares about you, he just doesn't know how to show it. He has made a lot of mistakes in the past, but I truly think he is trying to sort himself out. Well, I hope that's what he is ... And try to stop comparing it to your past and to your boyfriend’s past. So. As it turns out, you do – so tell him. I guess I’d like to be able to give him these snapshots of my past relationships to let him know the only value I hold in them is that they helped me realize how completely great I’ve got it now. Make sure you let him know that you don’t care how he got to you. to think "no woman aborts a baby lightly" is untrue and unhelpful? That’s fine, I thought. You can cover it up with long sleeves or makeup, you can go weeks without ever even looking at it, but that doesnât change the fact that itâs there, it exists, and one day you will glance down and see it, and remember. Send letters to meredith.goldstein@globe.com. but I would be wary of anyone who tried to proscribe what I could or couldn't talk about. After all these months, I wanted to finally be open and honest with him about it, and to understand a bit about this missing piece of his life before I knew him. Also I freely admit that I do like to know the ins and outs of everything (read cautious) and so this is a new approach for me. Found insideBut that doesn't mean you should know all the dirty details of my past life. ... “I don't want to know anything!” That wasn't true, but she wasn't about to let him think she had spent any time dwelling on the woman he used to love. He doesn't want to know anything about my past. Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. He says it's because he doesn't want to know, not interested, it could make him jealous and what's in the past is done with and over. You want to talk about exes so he understands how he fits into your life, and why you're so confident . TBH, now I would find it a bit weird and inappropriate if DH and I were to sit down and have a detailed conversation about one of my past relationships. When a guy has a thing for you, he'll want to talk to you all the time and as often as possible. Found inside – Page 92I was letting my past define my future, and it was destroying the potential God gave me to do something with my life. ... God knows. He sees my pain. He understands and he wants me to focus on Him, so He can bring me out of my pain. I usually don't talk about bfs past, in the fact that I would tell the one before me how they made me feel. Found insideCullen saw the pain on her face, and he wanted to tell her that he wasn't going away. “Shelby, just listen.” “No, I can't listen anymore. I have Ryan to think about now. He doesn't need to be torn away from more people. I don't want to ... So I don’t know, don’t make unnecessary agreements about never talking about exes and don’t force conversations. People who cannot accept that their partner has a past are most likely trying to be in control and/or to deal with their own insecurities. Found insideI think most of the crew knows that Coop and I are something more than colleagues, but I'm not sure how much they know. I'm not sure how much I know. ... He doesn't careabout my past, and he doesn't even want me to promise him a future. A. Just be in your relationship. Let him know you, all of you, not just the fun stuff, but the muck and the mess and heartache that is the stuff that makes up the very deep center of love. You also want to know that you can talk about anything without it getting weird. To be clear, I didn’t — and still don’t — want details about his former significant other(s). Have some sensitivity about his feelings too. Found insideIt was past my shoulders when he left for college. ... We've fallen back into this rhythm so easily—I don't want to ruin it. ... He never has. And it makes me instantly aware of the other things he doesn't know about: my OCD, ... I have been dating a guy for over a year, we spend 3-4 days/nights together every week and we are very close in most areas. As others have said take it slowly and certainly don't do anything serious until he's saying you're not perfect but loves you warts and all!Maybe you should volunteer some info about a previous relationship and see what his reaction is? Tell him he has to accept this basic fact about your existence, that bad things happened and they affected you and they will continue to affect you. Found insideHe was grateful to have her back no matter what her story turned out to be. He didn't want to keep dreaming about her. He wanted to dream with ... You don't need to tell me about your past if you don't want to. Sometimes the past just ... Found insideme. Now that I think about it, it's really laughable. How could there be such a person who treats me so well for no ... He doesn't mind my past, he doesn't mind that I haven't forgotten you, he doesn't mind that I'm being harassed by ... We both decided we wanted to without much fanfare, it was a part of telling our stories to one another. Dp doesn't want to know anything about my past relationships....I am a nosey cah and whilst am not in the least bit worried he has children/wives/scientology magazines hidden away, I've always been a bit curious. So early in the relationship, I concluded that I shouldn’t tell him about my past trauma because he won’t want to hear it and he might even think I’m lying. He may not like it, you may not like his reaction, but not telling him is hurting you and youâve already hurt enough. Many. How many? Boundaries and consent are very important to him and he makes an effort to teach them to his kids. Pffft. Maybe he just thinks that traumatic events only happen to âother peopleâ and that by denying the existence of traumatic events he can protect those he loves from suffering. Found insidedoesn't deserve me, and I don't want him to see me cry. “I need you to go away right now Philip...” He doesn't move, his expression frozen. ... There's so much I don't know, about my past, but I feel especially dark about my parents. When I met my (now) husband, he was like this, not specifically past relationships either. He’s 30 and I’m 26. Sorry, you know what I mean! He wouldn’t be with you if you didn’t make him happy. or is this a warning of something else?? That’s the part that seems off to me. Does he mean he might become jealous? I think he has relaxed a bit with time, especially as I only ever mention my exes very casually, in passing. Tell him what happened, and tell him he doesnât have to fix it, which is great news because he canât fix it. You donât have to recover from trauma and also be cool about anything. Found insideHer statement doesn't need an answer. I know who she's referring to. He'd want me to stay indefinitely, but I haven't even told him I'm leaving yet. I'll let him know tonight. Hopefully. He provides the place I live, my job. Found insideWhat is your theory of why the serial killer might be stalking me if he doesn't know anything about my past?” Sam sighed and once more came to the side of the bed and sank down, his weight shifting the mattress so she nearly tumbled ... He can talk to a counselor, or just Google âsupporting a partner with PTSDâ and find amazing resources like this and this and this. My husband has never asked anything about my past. It’s inherently wrong to consider someone having past relationships as “skeletons in the closet.”, Column and comments are edited and reprinted from, What to do when a crush won’t take the hint, He’s bothered by R-rated video he found on her computer. Or is the past truly the past and all that matters is what we’ve created together? Tell him. Found insideThat was one thing I didn't want, especially from him. “I didn't say it so you'd ... You seem interested in my past for some reason, so I threw it out there.” He sighed. “I'm not trying to pry. ... 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